Writer Life Lesson #25: To Write or Not To Write?

Even as the best of writers, we all have busy lives. The kids need to be taken care of, bills need to be paid, and most of us have other hobbies other than writing. And let’s not forget the unexpected things that come up and take precedent over writing.

Lately, I have been very guilty of not having time to write, and it’s been making me feel a little disappointed in myself. I don’t have kids, I have a few bills, and a few hobbies here and there, but there is still time to write here and there and I haven’t really been taking advantage of it. As I sit here, thinking about NaNoWriMo coming up and how I haven’t really been writing lately, it makes sense that other writers must go through this too.

This leads me to Writer Life Lesson #25: Sometimes it’s okay not to write. 

For the past few months, my life has been crazy and has only gotten crazier since then. I was working a full-time 9-5 job, doing full-time school online, doing judo four days a week, and interviewing for a new job. Thankfully now some of that has calmed down. I’m still in school (though getting that much closer to the end), judo is still four days a week (when I can make it), but my job has completely changed.

Currently, I am going through orientation for my new job which has completely different duties from my 9-5 job, and is no longer 9-5, but whenever shift they need. This shift has really begun to eat my writing time, and some days I come home and the last thing I want to do is write.

Sitting here, finally having time to write, and thinking about it, I’ve realized it’s okay for me not to write for a few weeks here and there while things settle, or while I’m focusing on orienting in the new job.

If I can get a few sentences here and there, then that’s great! Even if it’s a single sentence, or even a single word, progress is still being made. It’s alright to take previous drafts and frankenstein a book out of previous drafts and go from there.

I’ve been writing for over a decade and some aspects of writing are still new to me, and that’s great!

Writing is still an adventure, and it’s okay to write or not write. But you can bet I’m going to give it my best shot come November 1st!

If you want to write a novel, join me here!


Writer Life Lesson #24: Sometimes It’s Better Not to Outline

I have been working on a novel and its series for nearly eight years now. Several of them have had outlines and several of them haven’t. All of them have been started during National Novel Writing Month and a few of them have been finished. Why am I telling you about my projects in a post about outlining?

Because Sometimes it’s better not to outline.

The first few drafts of book one of my series, I outlined, which set the pace for the rest of the series. There are three point of views and each of them have twelve chapters. So thirty-six chapters per book. That’s easy enough, right? It helps with pacing and makes sure that the book doesn’t get too long and winded. “Ok, it’s section 10/12, time to start wrapping it up,”I think to myself as I write and begin to get bored with the plot after months and months.

The problem however, is that a lot of times when I get to section ten or eleven, I still have so much story and I shoehorn the plot in and plan to fix it later. It’s an ugly process, but for post-nano and finishing novels it works for me.

Until recently, that is.

I’ve lost count of the number of drafts that I’ve written for the first book of my series. I have tried to stick to the “Twelve chapters of each point of view, nice and tidy at thirty-six chapters” plan, but for this rewrite, because there is so much information in the first book that needs to be added in, I have decided to chuck my outline and chapter structures. I have decided to just write what needs to be written and fill in the blanks later.

I have the basic plot and know where the characters need to end up at the end of the novel, but I’m letting them surprise me with what happens in between and leaving myself notes as I go. It’s a freeing process, because the characters can breathe and have organic interactions and have time to expand before they all reach the end.

I’m finding so many more interesting things than I would have if I had stuck to my outline.  Some of my best novels so far have been ones where I have a loose outline or none at all.

If you’re stuck, try not outlining and see what happens.

Writer Life Lesson #23: Write Three Sentences

Yes, you are reading that correctly. Just three sentences.

Life is busy for most writers. We have day jobs, kids, pets, outside life to deal with once we leave the page. Several things interrupt us from our stories and as more days pass it becomes more difficult to get back into the story.

We also have distractions, such as Netflix, TV, flash games. I have been guilty lately of giving into the distractions instead of writing and falling deeper into despair that I haven’t been writing.

How do I fix that? Write Three Sentences.

It almost seems too easy, right? For some of you, it might be. Some of you writers are probably thinking “That’s it?!”. But hear me out.

If you’re distracted, binging Netflix, stuck playing Facebook games, or catatonic after your day job, three sentences can feel like a mountain.

My new binge has been listening to podcasts. They can vary in length from fifteen minutes to an hour, sometimes an hour and a half. I’ve told myself that age old excuse of “I’ll write after this podcast ends” and then it automatically starts to play the next one and I think that same thought. Repeat Ad Nauseum until it’s time to go to bed.

What I have decided to do, and that works for me, is pausing the podcast, writing three sentences and then returning to the podcast, or the Netflix episode, or whatever else has been captivating my attention.

Over the past couple days, I have written about three thousand words just three sentences at a time. I’m in love with my story and characters again and am finally advancing the plot. An added bonus is I no longer have days where I don’t write anything. Even if it’s 100 words, that’s still something.

If you’re like me, and distracted by social media, Netflix, podcasts, TED talks, or anything else, and still wanting to write, pause that Netflix episode, that podcast, that TED talk, take a break from whatever is pulling you away from your writing and write three sentences .

Hopefully, when you do, one of these things will happen. You will either want to continue writing more than those three sentences or want to get back to whatever was distracting you. If you do go back to what was distracting you, try the three sentence rule again at the next break.

Even if you do just write three sentences at a time, eventually your project will be finished.



I turn into a monster.

I catch a glimpse,

And I don’t recognize myself,

With those fangs,

Those glowing eyes,

Or the talons that curl forth into the darkness.

But being a monster has its uses.

The fangs to bite back any remarks that could hurt too much.

The glowing eyes to see through the darkness of others.

The talons to protect myself from the blows that come first.

Forced to be the monster,

To put up defenses,

That I shouldn’t have to put up.

You’ve made me the monster,

But the only person I scare,

Is myself.

If I were to be human around you,

Then maybe you would be scared.

The Trail

I walk the path in sunlight,

Nature singing it’s sweet song all around me,

Cradling me in her arms,

As all else melts away.


There is no frustration,

No let down,

Or sadness.


There is me,

My feet on the path.


Singing me to peace.